On Tuesday I was eating lunch with 2 of my bestest friends.
An off-hand comment was made, and I reacted pretty strongly to it. K asked me, 'So, have you and BF kissed yet?' It majorly irritated me. Like, really. so I responded pretty quickly and passionately, 'You do not get an accounting of our sex life!'
I had to stop and think about why I reacted so strongly, and where the irritation came from.
The comment itself was not offensive. And it wasn't intended to be. I know that. Logically, I know that. Emotionally, though, it struck a chord in me.
I have figured out why. If this was any other man, at this point, while I would be talking about a bf, no one would have met him yet, and I wouldn't be giving very much detail about the relationship yet.
But, as K said, 'This is BF!'
Which makes it a little worse. Him being a Pastor is an added layer of complexity to an already involved process. Dating is hard. Trying to bring 2 lives together is a complex thing. Trying to bring 2 lives together when one of them lives a very public life is even more so.
As we make this relationship more public, especially to his congregation, it will be increasingly hard to keep the intimate parts(and I don't mean sex here) of the relationship private.
And for someone who is as private as I am, this is going to be hard. Worth it in the end, but hard none-the-less.